Saturday, November 6, 2010

Motherhood

I have been thinking a lot lately about motherhood and how blessed I am. One morning last week I woke up to Simon in the pantry at 6:30 in the morning. I thought they weren't supposed to eat me out of house and home until they were teenagers. As I was doing the dishes later that day this story, of sorts, came to my mind. I thought I would share. I named it motherhood, and YES, all this stuff really has happened.

Motherhood

Some day I will not find:

My boys in the pantry at 6:30 in the morning,

Lego’s in my kitchen tool caddy,

Cherries that have been picked off the tree next door in my shoes,

Fleece hats in the pantry,

Towel’s on the floor that were used to mop up spilled juice,

Toys strung about the front room floor,

Shirts stretched out and pants with holes in them,

Dirty Pullup’s on the floor that have conveniently missed the garbage can,

Shoe’s in the refrigerator,

Paper airplanes, balloons and pillows flying at me and hitting me in the head,

Rocks, toy cars, marbles, and other random objects rolling around in the dryer,

Apple cores or banana peels left on the table,

Elbows, knees, fingers and toes poking me in MY bed in the middle of the night,

And muddy footprints on my newly cleaned carpets.

And although I look forward to that day with rejoicing, it also brings me sadness because then it will mean that I will no longer have:

Good morning hugs and slobbery kisses,

Pictures drawn just for me,

Boys dressed up in creative costumes that make me smile,

Wilted dandelions brought to me to put in my hair so I can “look pretty”,

Little hands rubbing my back or brushing my hair,

The sound of little boy laughter,

Babies to snuggle with after a bath,

Little voices singing songs with me on car rides,

Boys to hold on my lap while reading a book,

Dirty hands and faces to wash,

Cute little under-roo bottoms running around the house,

Ships built of Lego’s and weapons built of Tinkertoy’s to be shown to me,

Eskimo and butterfly kisses,

Forts made in the family room,

And my sweet little boys faces smiling up at me.

I think I will take the good with the bad for as long as I can.

Friday, October 1, 2010

How to Raise Boys That Read

My Friend sent me this article and I loved it. It backs up what I have been trying to do in our home for a while now. Sometimes successfully, sometimes not so much. I just thought I would share!

By Thomas Spence

When I was a young boy, America's elite schools and universities were almost entirely reserved for males. That seems incredible now, in an era when headlines suggest that boys are largely unfit for the classroom. In particular, they can't read.

According to a recent report from the Center on Education Policy, for example, substantially more boys than girls score below the proficiency level on the annual National Assessment of Educational Progress reading test. This disparity goes back to 1992, and in some states the percentage of boys proficient in reading is now more than ten points below that of girls. The male-female reading gap is found in every socio-economic and ethnic category, including the children of white, college-educated parents.

The good news is that influential people have noticed this problem. The bad news is that many of them have perfectly awful ideas for solving it.

Everyone agrees that if boys don't read well, it's because they don't read enough. But why don't they read? A considerable number of teachers and librarians believe that boys are simply bored by the "stuffy" literature they encounter in school. According to a revealing Associated Press story in July these experts insist that we must "meet them where they are"—that is, pander to boys' untutored tastes.

For elementary- and middle-school boys, that means "books that exploit [their] love of bodily functions and gross-out humor." AP reported that one school librarian treats her pupils to "grossology" parties. "Just get 'em reading," she counsels cheerily. "Worry about what they're reading later."

Not with 'gross-out' books and video-game bribes.

There certainly is no shortage of publishers ready to meet boys where they are. Scholastic has profitably catered to the gross-out market for years with its "Goosebumps" and "Captain Underpants" series. Its latest bestsellers are the "Butt Books," a series that began with "The Day My Butt Went Psycho."

The more venerable houses are just as willing to aim low. Penguin, which once used the slogan, "the library of every educated person," has its own "Gross Out" line for boys, including such new classics as "Sir Fartsalot Hunts the Booger."

Workman Publishing made its name telling women "What to Expect When You're Expecting." How many of them expected they'd be buying "Oh, Yuck! The Encyclopedia of Everything Nasty" a few years later from the same publisher? Even a self-published author like Raymond Bean—nom de plume of the fourth-grade teacher who wrote "SweetFarts"—can make it big in this genre. His flatulence-themed opus hit no. 3 in children's humor on Amazon. The sequel debuts this fall.

Education was once understood as training for freedom. Not merely the transmission of information, education entailed the formation of manners and taste. Aristotle thought we should be raised "so as both to delight in and to be pained by the things that we ought; this is the right education."

"Plato before him," writes C. S. Lewis, "had said the same. The little human animal will not at first have the right responses. It must be trained to feel pleasure, liking, disgust, and hatred at those things which really are pleasant, likeable, disgusting, and hateful."

This kind of training goes against the grain, and who has time for that? How much easier to meet children where they are.

One obvious problem with the SweetFarts philosophy of education is that it is more suited to producing a generation of barbarians and morons than to raising the sort of men who make good husbands, fathers and professionals. If you keep meeting a boy where he is, he doesn't go very far.

The other problem is that pandering doesn't address the real reason boys won't read. My own experience with six sons is that even the squirmiest boy does not require lurid or vulgar material to sustain his interest in a book.

So why won't boys read? The AP story drops a clue when it describes the efforts of one frustrated couple with their 13-year-old unlettered son: "They've tried bribing him with new video games." Good grief.

The appearance of the boy-girl literacy gap happens to coincide with the proliferation of video games and other electronic forms of entertainment over the last decade or two. Boys spend far more time "plugged in" than girls do. Could the reading gap have more to do with competition for boys' attention than with their supposed inability to focus on anything other than outhouse humor?

Dr. Robert Weis, a psychology professor at Denison University, confirmed this suspicion in a randomized controlled trial of the effect of video games on academic ability. Boys with video games at home, he found, spend more time playing them than reading, and their academic performance suffers substantially. Hard to believe, isn't it, but Science has spoken.

The secret to raising boys who read, I submit, is pretty simple—keep electronic media, especially video games and recreational Internet, under control (that is to say, almost completely absent). Then fill your shelves with good books.

People who think that a book—even R.L. Stine's grossest masterpiece—can compete with the powerful stimulation of an electronic screen are kidding themselves. But on the level playing field of a quiet den or bedroom, a good book like "Treasure Island" will hold a boy's attention quite as well as "Zombie Butts from Uranus." Who knows—a boy deprived of electronic stimulation might even become desperate enough to read Jane Austen.

Most importantly, a boy raised on great literature is more likely to grow up to think, to speak, and to write like a civilized man. Whom would you prefer to have shaped the boyhood imagination of your daughter's husband—Raymond Bean or Robert Louis Stevenson?

I offer a final piece of evidence that is perhaps unanswerable: There is no literacy gap between home-schooled boys and girls. How many of these families, do you suppose, have thrown grossology parties?

Monday, June 7, 2010

Intro to Thomas Jefferson Education

For all of you that wonder what I am teaching my kids and why I homeschool. I hope you will take the time to watch. This is fabulous stuff! It has several parts. Part two is one of my favorites. It is not just for homeschoolers by the way. I hope that if you think that education is a mess in this country, that you will check it out!

Wednesday, June 2, 2010

Bryce Canyon

We just got back from a few impromptu trip to Bryce Canyon. It is not really like me to fly by the seat of my pants, but I did and it was FABULOUS! We had so much fun. Travis' parents wanted to take us down there and show us some of the wonderful things that they discovered when they went down a month or so ago.
So, we "planned" the trip at 10:00 pm Sunday and were on the road by 8:00 am Monday. Travis parents took care of all the food and stuff so all we had to do was pack our clothes. On the way down we stopped at Cove Fort. It is an LDS church historical site between Fillmore and Beaver. It was an actual fort built by Ira Hinckley at the request of Brigham Young. We have been wanting to go there for a while now so it was a fun surprise. The boys had a lot of fun learning about the Fort. Unfortunately my camera is broken so we have no pictures of the trip. We will have to settle for some generic ones from the internet. We ate lunch there and then hit the road again.
We had a few other little stops on the way, then we found a camp ground, dropped the trailer off and headed out for our first hike. We went to the Queens garden. It was so beautiful! Here are a few pictures.This was actually the end that we went up at the end. It was very steep, but so much fun!

The total hike was about 3 miles. We were worried that the boys, Simon especially would get tired, but they were troopers and did a wonderful job! Luke had to be carried a little at the end when it was so steep, but other then that not one problem. They were so excited to be exploring. Jonah kept saying things like "I wish I could live here". It was so much fun.
After the hike we went back to camp and had dinner. Travis helped Jonah start his very first fire. He loved that. Grandpa Garner read to us around the camp fire for a while. Then we went to bed. We slept pretty good except for the time that I woke up because it sounded like the boys were walking around in the tent trailer. I reached out and felt for Simon who was sleeping in the bed next to me with Jonah, and he was not there. I called his name and didn't get an answer so I got up to find that he was laying on the floor with all of Jonah's blankets on top of him. Jonah was freezing. He was up and talking to me, but I don't really think he was awake. I tried to get him to lay down and he kept laying down in all different directions. I couldn't get Simon back on the bed with him laying funny, so I had to get him all situated. I picked Simon up and for some reason his shirt was off. I finally got them both back in bed and covered up and we went back to sleep. When I woke up in the morning Simon was on the floor again, and Jonah had no blankets again. I guess I should have just left them alone.
We had breakfast that morning, packed up camp and then headed out for two more hikes. The first was a very short hike to Fairyland loop. The next was to Mossy Cave. That was awesome!
It was a really fun trail to hike with so many beautiful parts of nature surrounding us.


After this hike it was time to get back on the road. We did have one more surprise stop to make on the way home though. Grandpa Garner stopped at the Cache Valley cheese factory on the way home. We ate lunch at the picnic tables they have there and then grandpa bought us ice cream cones and squeaky cheese for the drive home. It was a wonderful time! We hope to go back down and explore some more again soon!

Thursday, March 11, 2010

I forgot

I just realized a day later that I forgot to put the link to my new blog! Sorry!

http://www.footzonology.blogspot.com/

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

New Blog!

I know, I know, it has been way to long! I do have some pictures and some fun stuff to share about my family. I will have to get to that another day however, hopefully soon, because I am extremely busy these days. I just wanted everybody to be aware of my new health and wellness blog that I have been working on. I hope that you will check it out and bookmark it, or add it to your feed so that you can keep up with all the fun stuff that I am learning!

Thursday, January 14, 2010

I love this video. Check it out!

http://www.ted.com/talks/lang/eng/ken_robinson_says_schools_kill_creativity.html