Saturday, November 6, 2010

Motherhood

I have been thinking a lot lately about motherhood and how blessed I am. One morning last week I woke up to Simon in the pantry at 6:30 in the morning. I thought they weren't supposed to eat me out of house and home until they were teenagers. As I was doing the dishes later that day this story, of sorts, came to my mind. I thought I would share. I named it motherhood, and YES, all this stuff really has happened.

Motherhood

Some day I will not find:

My boys in the pantry at 6:30 in the morning,

Lego’s in my kitchen tool caddy,

Cherries that have been picked off the tree next door in my shoes,

Fleece hats in the pantry,

Towel’s on the floor that were used to mop up spilled juice,

Toys strung about the front room floor,

Shirts stretched out and pants with holes in them,

Dirty Pullup’s on the floor that have conveniently missed the garbage can,

Shoe’s in the refrigerator,

Paper airplanes, balloons and pillows flying at me and hitting me in the head,

Rocks, toy cars, marbles, and other random objects rolling around in the dryer,

Apple cores or banana peels left on the table,

Elbows, knees, fingers and toes poking me in MY bed in the middle of the night,

And muddy footprints on my newly cleaned carpets.

And although I look forward to that day with rejoicing, it also brings me sadness because then it will mean that I will no longer have:

Good morning hugs and slobbery kisses,

Pictures drawn just for me,

Boys dressed up in creative costumes that make me smile,

Wilted dandelions brought to me to put in my hair so I can “look pretty”,

Little hands rubbing my back or brushing my hair,

The sound of little boy laughter,

Babies to snuggle with after a bath,

Little voices singing songs with me on car rides,

Boys to hold on my lap while reading a book,

Dirty hands and faces to wash,

Cute little under-roo bottoms running around the house,

Ships built of Lego’s and weapons built of Tinkertoy’s to be shown to me,

Eskimo and butterfly kisses,

Forts made in the family room,

And my sweet little boys faces smiling up at me.

I think I will take the good with the bad for as long as I can.

Friday, October 1, 2010

How to Raise Boys That Read

My Friend sent me this article and I loved it. It backs up what I have been trying to do in our home for a while now. Sometimes successfully, sometimes not so much. I just thought I would share!

By Thomas Spence

When I was a young boy, America's elite schools and universities were almost entirely reserved for males. That seems incredible now, in an era when headlines suggest that boys are largely unfit for the classroom. In particular, they can't read.

According to a recent report from the Center on Education Policy, for example, substantially more boys than girls score below the proficiency level on the annual National Assessment of Educational Progress reading test. This disparity goes back to 1992, and in some states the percentage of boys proficient in reading is now more than ten points below that of girls. The male-female reading gap is found in every socio-economic and ethnic category, including the children of white, college-educated parents.

The good news is that influential people have noticed this problem. The bad news is that many of them have perfectly awful ideas for solving it.

Everyone agrees that if boys don't read well, it's because they don't read enough. But why don't they read? A considerable number of teachers and librarians believe that boys are simply bored by the "stuffy" literature they encounter in school. According to a revealing Associated Press story in July these experts insist that we must "meet them where they are"—that is, pander to boys' untutored tastes.

For elementary- and middle-school boys, that means "books that exploit [their] love of bodily functions and gross-out humor." AP reported that one school librarian treats her pupils to "grossology" parties. "Just get 'em reading," she counsels cheerily. "Worry about what they're reading later."

Not with 'gross-out' books and video-game bribes.

There certainly is no shortage of publishers ready to meet boys where they are. Scholastic has profitably catered to the gross-out market for years with its "Goosebumps" and "Captain Underpants" series. Its latest bestsellers are the "Butt Books," a series that began with "The Day My Butt Went Psycho."

The more venerable houses are just as willing to aim low. Penguin, which once used the slogan, "the library of every educated person," has its own "Gross Out" line for boys, including such new classics as "Sir Fartsalot Hunts the Booger."

Workman Publishing made its name telling women "What to Expect When You're Expecting." How many of them expected they'd be buying "Oh, Yuck! The Encyclopedia of Everything Nasty" a few years later from the same publisher? Even a self-published author like Raymond Bean—nom de plume of the fourth-grade teacher who wrote "SweetFarts"—can make it big in this genre. His flatulence-themed opus hit no. 3 in children's humor on Amazon. The sequel debuts this fall.

Education was once understood as training for freedom. Not merely the transmission of information, education entailed the formation of manners and taste. Aristotle thought we should be raised "so as both to delight in and to be pained by the things that we ought; this is the right education."

"Plato before him," writes C. S. Lewis, "had said the same. The little human animal will not at first have the right responses. It must be trained to feel pleasure, liking, disgust, and hatred at those things which really are pleasant, likeable, disgusting, and hateful."

This kind of training goes against the grain, and who has time for that? How much easier to meet children where they are.

One obvious problem with the SweetFarts philosophy of education is that it is more suited to producing a generation of barbarians and morons than to raising the sort of men who make good husbands, fathers and professionals. If you keep meeting a boy where he is, he doesn't go very far.

The other problem is that pandering doesn't address the real reason boys won't read. My own experience with six sons is that even the squirmiest boy does not require lurid or vulgar material to sustain his interest in a book.

So why won't boys read? The AP story drops a clue when it describes the efforts of one frustrated couple with their 13-year-old unlettered son: "They've tried bribing him with new video games." Good grief.

The appearance of the boy-girl literacy gap happens to coincide with the proliferation of video games and other electronic forms of entertainment over the last decade or two. Boys spend far more time "plugged in" than girls do. Could the reading gap have more to do with competition for boys' attention than with their supposed inability to focus on anything other than outhouse humor?

Dr. Robert Weis, a psychology professor at Denison University, confirmed this suspicion in a randomized controlled trial of the effect of video games on academic ability. Boys with video games at home, he found, spend more time playing them than reading, and their academic performance suffers substantially. Hard to believe, isn't it, but Science has spoken.

The secret to raising boys who read, I submit, is pretty simple—keep electronic media, especially video games and recreational Internet, under control (that is to say, almost completely absent). Then fill your shelves with good books.

People who think that a book—even R.L. Stine's grossest masterpiece—can compete with the powerful stimulation of an electronic screen are kidding themselves. But on the level playing field of a quiet den or bedroom, a good book like "Treasure Island" will hold a boy's attention quite as well as "Zombie Butts from Uranus." Who knows—a boy deprived of electronic stimulation might even become desperate enough to read Jane Austen.

Most importantly, a boy raised on great literature is more likely to grow up to think, to speak, and to write like a civilized man. Whom would you prefer to have shaped the boyhood imagination of your daughter's husband—Raymond Bean or Robert Louis Stevenson?

I offer a final piece of evidence that is perhaps unanswerable: There is no literacy gap between home-schooled boys and girls. How many of these families, do you suppose, have thrown grossology parties?

Monday, June 7, 2010

Intro to Thomas Jefferson Education

For all of you that wonder what I am teaching my kids and why I homeschool. I hope you will take the time to watch. This is fabulous stuff! It has several parts. Part two is one of my favorites. It is not just for homeschoolers by the way. I hope that if you think that education is a mess in this country, that you will check it out!

Wednesday, June 2, 2010

Bryce Canyon

We just got back from a few impromptu trip to Bryce Canyon. It is not really like me to fly by the seat of my pants, but I did and it was FABULOUS! We had so much fun. Travis' parents wanted to take us down there and show us some of the wonderful things that they discovered when they went down a month or so ago.
So, we "planned" the trip at 10:00 pm Sunday and were on the road by 8:00 am Monday. Travis parents took care of all the food and stuff so all we had to do was pack our clothes. On the way down we stopped at Cove Fort. It is an LDS church historical site between Fillmore and Beaver. It was an actual fort built by Ira Hinckley at the request of Brigham Young. We have been wanting to go there for a while now so it was a fun surprise. The boys had a lot of fun learning about the Fort. Unfortunately my camera is broken so we have no pictures of the trip. We will have to settle for some generic ones from the internet. We ate lunch there and then hit the road again.
We had a few other little stops on the way, then we found a camp ground, dropped the trailer off and headed out for our first hike. We went to the Queens garden. It was so beautiful! Here are a few pictures.This was actually the end that we went up at the end. It was very steep, but so much fun!

The total hike was about 3 miles. We were worried that the boys, Simon especially would get tired, but they were troopers and did a wonderful job! Luke had to be carried a little at the end when it was so steep, but other then that not one problem. They were so excited to be exploring. Jonah kept saying things like "I wish I could live here". It was so much fun.
After the hike we went back to camp and had dinner. Travis helped Jonah start his very first fire. He loved that. Grandpa Garner read to us around the camp fire for a while. Then we went to bed. We slept pretty good except for the time that I woke up because it sounded like the boys were walking around in the tent trailer. I reached out and felt for Simon who was sleeping in the bed next to me with Jonah, and he was not there. I called his name and didn't get an answer so I got up to find that he was laying on the floor with all of Jonah's blankets on top of him. Jonah was freezing. He was up and talking to me, but I don't really think he was awake. I tried to get him to lay down and he kept laying down in all different directions. I couldn't get Simon back on the bed with him laying funny, so I had to get him all situated. I picked Simon up and for some reason his shirt was off. I finally got them both back in bed and covered up and we went back to sleep. When I woke up in the morning Simon was on the floor again, and Jonah had no blankets again. I guess I should have just left them alone.
We had breakfast that morning, packed up camp and then headed out for two more hikes. The first was a very short hike to Fairyland loop. The next was to Mossy Cave. That was awesome!
It was a really fun trail to hike with so many beautiful parts of nature surrounding us.


After this hike it was time to get back on the road. We did have one more surprise stop to make on the way home though. Grandpa Garner stopped at the Cache Valley cheese factory on the way home. We ate lunch at the picnic tables they have there and then grandpa bought us ice cream cones and squeaky cheese for the drive home. It was a wonderful time! We hope to go back down and explore some more again soon!

Thursday, March 11, 2010

I forgot

I just realized a day later that I forgot to put the link to my new blog! Sorry!

http://www.footzonology.blogspot.com/

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

New Blog!

I know, I know, it has been way to long! I do have some pictures and some fun stuff to share about my family. I will have to get to that another day however, hopefully soon, because I am extremely busy these days. I just wanted everybody to be aware of my new health and wellness blog that I have been working on. I hope that you will check it out and bookmark it, or add it to your feed so that you can keep up with all the fun stuff that I am learning!

Thursday, January 14, 2010

I love this video. Check it out!

http://www.ted.com/talks/lang/eng/ken_robinson_says_schools_kill_creativity.html

Wednesday, December 16, 2009

Simon's Birthday

Today is my Simon's 5th birthday! He is so grown up already. I love you Simon! We are so glad to have you in our family!

Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Time to take it down


Well, the Christmas trees lasted less than a week. I guess it is time to take them down!












Kitchen Experimenting

So, yesterday I think I was feeling a bit adventurous in the kitchen. I decided to try and improve on my hot chocolate a little bit and try to make it a little creamier. Here is the improved recipe that I came up with.

20 macadamia nuts
6 oz of hot water
1 Tbls cocoa powder
1 Tbls Agave

Put the 6 oz of hot water in the blender with the macadamia nuts. Blend until smooth. Pour nut milk into cup. Stir in Cocoa and Agave. Enjoy.

I also decided to try to make a healthy version on baked potato soup. I have lots of baked potatoes that were left over from the ward Christmas party so I am trying to be creative in my use for them. I used a few different recipes as guidelines and this is what I came up with.

Baked Potato Soup

5 cups water
2 cups chopped onion
1 cup celery
1 cup thinly sliced carrots
2 Tbls Olive oil
4 tsp vegetable bouillon
3 tsp sea salt
1/2 tsp pepper
3 Tbls Dry Parsley
7-8 medium sized baked potatoes
2 additional cups of water, almond or rice milk (I used water, but if you like it more creamy use milk)

Chop vegetables and add to a large pot. Add olive oil and saute until onions are transparent. Add 5 cups of water, salt, pepper and bouillon and bring to a boil. Reduce heat and simmer for 15 min. Meanwhile chop 3-4 baked potatoes into large chunks and put into blender with additional water or milk. Blend until smooth. Chop the remaining potatoes into bit sized pieces and add to soup along with the parsley and potato puree . Simmer for 10 min.

Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Homemade Dounuts, Hot Chocolate and Roger Whittaker

Well, the last couple of days have been difficult to say the least. Today, I decided that we just needed a very laid back relaxing day. The boys decided to play in the snow and I wished that I had some hot chocolate in my house to give them when they came in. In years past that is what I would do. Now, because we have changed our eating habits, I no longer have hot chocolate in our home. I never really wished for it quite like I did today. So, as I was doing the dishes my mind started to wander and it occurred to me that I could make my own hot chocolate that would be healthy for my kids to have. I decided to get brave and experiment. It actually turned out really well! Simon especially liked it! I also decided that I would make some nice warm doughnut drops for them. My neighbor posted these on her blog the other day and I have been wanting to make them ever since I saw her site! I had to healthify them a little bit also to fit our needs, but they turned out beautifully! All the while I was blessed to listen to one of my favorite all time Christmas songs. You can listen to it for free here. It really helped me to remember that I really do LOVE my boys so much and I am so blessed to have them in my life! Hopefully today will be better now.

Here are the recipes that I used to make the hot chocolate and doughnuts.

Healthified Hot Chocolate

6 oz of hot water
1 Tbls cocoa powder or carob powder
1/2 Tbls sucanat or agave

Stir together and enjoy!

Healthified Doughnut Drops
(Check out the link above for the original recipe to get great ideas on how to make these when in a hurry.)

1 1/2 cups whole wheat flour
1 1/2 Tbls vital wheat gluten
1/3 C. sucanat
2 tsp. aluminum free baking powder
1/2 tsp. sea salt
1/4 tsp. cinnamon
1/2 C. water, almond milk or rice milk (I used water)
2 Tbs. cocount oil, melted
1/2 tsp. vanilla
1 egg or egg substitute using 1 Tbls ground flax or chia seed and two Tbls water mixed together and allowed to sit and make a gel.
Coconut oil for frying

Mix all ingredients together to form a dough. In a large saucepan, heat 2 to 3 inches oil to 375ยบ. When oil is heated, drop five or six doughnuts into hot oil and fry for 2 to 3 minutes per side to a deep golden brown. I used my small cookie scoop to drop them in the oil. Drain on paper towels. If you like you can top the dounuts with powdered sucanat or drizzle honey or agave over the top of them. It would also be fun to roll them in some agave and then some chopped nuts and/or shredded unsweetened coconut. We just ate them plain and they were delicious and plenty sweet!

Friday, December 4, 2009

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Monday, November 23, 2009

Family Photos

Our good friend Jake took these photos for us! They turned out great!

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

Quotes by Mr. Rogers

"Play is often talked about as if it were a relief from serious learning. But for children play is serious learning. Play is really the work of childhood."

"When we treat children's play as seriously as it deserves, we are helping them feel the joy that's to be found in the creative spirit. It's the things we play with and the people who help us play that make a great difference in our lives."

Monday, November 16, 2009

More of Face to Face with Greatness

One of the most important and life changing things that I learned from this seminar was when we talked about how we define our children. So many times we as a society define our kids by their skills. You know this just by listening to how people talk. When we praise people in general, not just kids, we often times do so by things that are skills, like you are a great singer, dancer, reader, pianist, housekeeper, cook, etc. When someone asks what our talents are we tend to say the same kinds of things. We as a society think that our skills define who we are, and what kind of a person we are, because of those skills.

In the mid 1700's (and other times in our history) it was very different. Skills were not nearly as important as a persons values. When people would ask what George Washington was good at people would respond with "he is honest" "he is a leader" "he has preservation and determination". Apparently he was also a good dancer, but that is not what everybody acknowledged first about him. It was always about values. People would do things for other people that they had never met simply because they had heard of the values that they hold.

When I was a young women a had a low self esteem. Why did I? Because I thought I had no talents. I thought that because I don't have a fabulous voice, and I dance like Elaine from "Seinfield", and I cannot draw or write particularly well (which are all things that I tried to do and enjoy doing and just couldn't do well enough) that I must not have any talents. I wasn't as smart as others, I wasn't as fashionable as other girls (I still am not) or as athletic as some. It wasn't until I got my patriarchal blessing that I realized that my talents are different. My mom always told me that I was good at other things that were more spiritual and emotional in nature. She tried really hard to let me know that I did have talents. I kind of believed her, but the world all around me was telling me different.

Even young kids know that we talk about what we value, what is most important to us. If we as parents believe that our kids have good values, but we don't tell them that we think they are honest, brave, strong hearted, loyal, patient, responsible, polite etc., and instead focus on skills they will not know it or believe it. We need to make it a point to tell them and tell them often. It is not even enough to just tell them thoughs things, we need to teach them what thoughs values look like also. They need to understand what being tolerant means and then when we see them being tolerant we need to point that out to them, praise them for their efforts. Then they will know and cherish it.

It is also not enough to just do this in our own families. Like I said earlier, my mom tried her best on me, but the world around me was telling me different. Our extended families and communities need our help. I have been trying to base my compliments to others, especially my nieces and nephews, based on their values rather then how cute they are. That is a hard on for me, because I also think my nieces look so cute in their dresses. (I am a succor for a cute girl in a dress, because I don't have one of my own yet.) However, I want my nieces and nephews to know that I love them not just because they play the guitar or piano well, or because they are so cute, but because they are respectful, kind, sharing, or obedient. I want their self esteem to be based off things that are of character and eternal importance, not their looks. I want them to know that I appreciate the beautiful music they play because of the hard work they put into learning how to play it. Then they will know that they are hard workers and can accomplish anything they set their minds to, not just playing an instrument or being good at sports.

As we talked about this in the seminar I felt completely overwhelmed with the knowledge that I can change this for my boys. So overwhelmed that it brought me to tears. I do not have to define them by their skill set. I realized that especially for Jonah this has been terribly debilitating. I will no longer tell people that Jonah is doing better at reading when they ask how school is going. I will tell them that is was really helpful today, or that he was selfless in one of our service projects. I will tell them that Simon spoke nicely to his brothers that day, or that he was thoughtful of others in his prayers. I will tell people that Luke gave everybody lots of love and kisses to make us feel better when we were sad. I will talk about the values that I truely do cherish in them. What a wonderful gift I can give to them!

There is so much more I want to write, but this will have to do for today. Stay tuned for more from Face to Face.

Sunday, November 15, 2009

Halloween 2009



Halloween was a lot of fun this year. Jonah changed his costume three times. At first he was Frodo. Then he wanted to wear his Frodo cape and a red mask and rubber hands that were scary that I bought to play a game with. Then he decided that he wanted to be a Jedi, so he wore his Frodo cape and borrowed a flashlight from my dad so that he would have a Lightsaber. He cracked me up. Jonah was the only one that went trick or treating because Luke didn't want to go and Simon had fallen asleep. Jonah was very kind and shared his candy with both of his brothers.

Thursday, November 12, 2009

We're Famous!

Just kidding! It was all very flukie!

Check it out.

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Monday, November 2, 2009

Boston Tea Party

I heard this story from Glenn Rawson yesterday and it really touched me. I thought I would share.

It was a cold rainy December night in Boston, Massachusetts when a crowd of some 7000 people responded to the ringing bells in Old South Church. They came spilling out into the streets, and listened to Samuel Adams and others speak about British tea and taxes. At that very moment, three ships laden with East India tea lay anchored in Boston Harbor. In just a few hours that tea would be forced on the citizens of Boston, taxes and all.

With adamant finality, Samuel Adams said, "This meeting can do nothing more to save the country. "

Just then, fifty of Boston's more prominent men came out of the back room of the church disguised as Mohawk Indians. With the crowd following the ‘Indians,’ they made their way to Griffin’s Wharf, where they split into three companies and boarded the tea ships. While the British crews watched, the men of Boston dumped 342 chests of tea into the harbor, effectively turning Boston Harbor into a saltwater teapot – about 90,000 pounds worth. That tea amounted to about 26 million cups and a small fortune .

Well, as they left, British Admiral Montagu called out, "Well, boys, you have [you’ve] had a fine, pleasant evening for your Indian caper, haven't you? But mind [you], you have [you’ve] got to pay the fiddler yet! "

Oh, and pay they did! The British instantly retaliated closing Boston Harbor, and cutting off all trade. Among other things, they disfranchised the city government and took steps to strangle the city of Boston completely out of existence.

That tea party was followed by Lexington and Concord, which led to the American Revolution – which led to American freedom.

Now, I learned that story as a child, and I pondered it. What was it that was at the heart of that tea party? Did the colonists not like British tea? – No, they loved tea! Well then, was the issue taxes; was it money? - No, because even with the tax on the British tea, it was still cheaper to buy that tea than the Dutch tea they were smuggling in. So why then did the people of Boston tweak the nose of the most powerful bear on earth – the British military?

Listen – remember this? "Taxation without representation is tyranny." That’s what they chanted. The meaning of that is: If they could have no voice in government, and no vote, they wanted no part!

Boston went to war for a voice in government, the right to vote. Now my friends, the right to vote is a fundamental expression of man's God-given agency.

Sadly, in the last presidential election, less than 50% of Americans voted. Or in other words, they surrendered the governing of their lives to someone else – which is exactly what Lucifer wanted in the first place.

Glenn Rawson – October 26, 2004

Thursday, October 29, 2009

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